I have been very rigid about the 'nowhere except work/daycare and home' gig. Fortunately (?) work has been kicking my arse up over my shoulders so I am so pooped by the time it comes to go home that it is exactly where I am happy to be going with my girl. On the off days, however, this is REALLY hard for me. Yes, I do believe it is helping my girl. So, mama will just have to look into pharmaceuticals for herself if need be ;0)
Then again, I am single and don't have the luxuries of someone to do all those mind-numbing tasks that need to be done. So, this morning I bent the rules and took C to the Social Security office to apply for her card. She was actually pretty withdrawn for the 45 minutes we were there. It may sound weird but I'm glad to see my kid not turning on the charm in public for a change. She just quietly watched the people around us. Weirder yet? It is obvious I need to get out more. I ENJOYED the visit to the Social Security office. I had this beautiful man who reminded me of Shemar Moore helping us out and he was so pleasant and efficient I could NOT believe I was in a government office. The whole experience was not only easy but fabulous (okay, I DO know I have to get out soon ;0) Anyway, I'll stop swooning over Shemar-the-second and just be happy that something went so very easy for us.
But, wait! Just in case you say, "Who is Shemar Moore?" 1) bestill my newly minted middle-aged heart 2) here is that mighty fine man:
Switching gears before I have a hot flash...nap time is upon us and it gives us both a chance to recharge. However, I am again on C's 'naughty' list because I just determined that I let the batteries in her favorite musical bear die. We're going to have to wing it with the 'rain' sound effects I always use...here's hoping.PS: I haven't included any pictures of C these past few days because nothing turns on her 'I'm a beautiful diva' alter ego faster than a camera. I am trying to 'keep it real' with her as much as possible. I want to know that the positives I see when we are alone are not being induced by anything else.
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Oh Shemar!! He is the one main reason I dvr Criminal Minds. Who cares if it's a rerun. And his odd yet endearing relationship with the IT chick cracks me up.
My favorite times are weekend mornings when one of us will get Sera and bring her to bed with us. We all snuggle and play and watch cartoons. It doesn't happen every weekend anymore, but it did for the first year or so. I really think it helped us with bonding.
I would 'lose' my card and have to go back an apply again if that fine man was the one to serve me!!
I am glad that you are doing what you think is right for you and C. That is all that matters.
Think I remember Shemar from the Young and the Restless -- he is a cutie! And so glad that you are having some wonderful times with your little one in the mornings! Makes mornings a lot better I'm sure.
Janet
What a treat to hear you've had a better day. I'm learning TONS from you! Never thought about the camera thing but when you say it it makes so much sense! I can't imagine how you must have felt seeing your little sweetie quiet in a place where normally she would turn on her charm and then bless you with a smile and 'dive' during your mommy and C time!
You're doing a GREAT job friend!!!
You're such a good mama!
I could not imagine doing it as a single, it's got to be hard!
All this RAD stuff has me starting to get a little (ahem, ALOT) nervous!
Sounds like you are finding a good "groove" for you and C. Keep up the good work Mama !
p.s. Shemar is Fine. Criminal Minds is a favorite in our house and I too enjoy the relationship between him and the IT girl (love her !)
Ooooh. He's pretty! Almost as pretty as Carlos Bernard from 24! :)
So glad you're getting in some good time with your girl every morning. Hangin' tight at home with C is going to payoff bigtime later on. When we first came home with each of the kids - most recently Maddie - we did the same thing. It drove me nuts too - it was just way too sad how thrilled I was to go to Wally World! :) I ended up making a list of the places I really wanted to visit after she got the hang of the family thing. At least it gave me something to look forward to. We were able to really start getting out about three months in and haven't looked back since.
Maddie is now doing awesome and has recently started to shy away and hide from people behind my legs at the stores. BIG difference from when we first brought her home and she would dive out of my arms toward any adult we would get even remotely close to. Sigh. ;)
You are SO wise. I am learning SO much from you C. SO MUCH. And I love how you recognize so keenly not only HER needs (right down to PICTURE TAKING) but YOURS as well. You both are doing SO WELL, even when it's hard. I hope you recognize that. I trust that you do.
You had me at Shemar...
I'm just catching up on the last few posts - been crazy busy here. But THANK YOU for your honesty in your recent posts...this is such an important topic. You're doing great...and both of you will be the winners in the end.
How have I gone this long not knowing who Shemar was? If I weren't a happily married woman, I'd be thinking about rolling in the mud with him. *Snort* ;)
Oh girl I know who Shemar is and I love me some Shemar, he is just so darn pretty!!!!
I think you are a great mom and that you are doing a fabulous job!!!
Love, Kristy
I have never wanted to be a yellow sweater so badly in all my life!!!
Woooooo
Thanks for being so REAL with you blog. It really helps me to be ready for our baby girl and all the ups & downs to come.
(((HUGS))) from TN
Michelle
every post I read that you write, I am in awe of you more and more.
You are a mama-warrior.
and then I read the 'no new pictures' disclosure, and I think you are just the greatest.
I'm taking notes...
Not only are you blessed to have C, she is blessed to have YOU.
Yep keep her world small - and the routine - it worked for my girl!
Carol
That morning cuddle/massage/together time is a wonderful thing. Good to hear that you had a good day together. Though they may be hard fought and slow in coming, I wish you a lifetime of wonderful days together.
You are an awesome and amazing mom, even in these difficult times. I applaud you...
Man is he hot! I'd work at SS, too if I could see him every day.
I'm not thrilled about my girl getting up an hour earlier than we need to. With that said, it is such a bonus to have the cuddle time in my bed every morning. That has quickly become my favorite time of the day filled with snuggles, kisses and the greatest giggles. Sounds like your morning time is a wonderful way to start the day and will only get better.
It's tough. We do the morning/evening thing too and have tried to cocoon as much as possible with a fairly rigid schedule and it seems to be working.
I haven't been on the computer for a while and read back through your posts. It made me feel better to know that others are dealing with the same issues at the same time we are. Take care of yourself.
Yeah, I would have a hard time with the "not getting out" thing too. How about a park in the middle of the day when noone else is there?
Well, I am glad your outing was not a nightmare or something.
Mornings here are nice. I wake up early to get stuff done before the kid wakes up.
I remember Shemar from the Y & R too. Very HOT indeed!! You deserve a hot flash on that one!
So glad to hear you are having some good moments now. I can't imagine doing it completely alone either. When we first came home with Maddy, I often thought of you single girls who were waiting at the time and thought.. OMG.. I cannot imagine being a single mom. I remember how hard it was just to find time for a shower. If you remember, when we arrived home from China I lost my job. It took me 6 months to find a new one. I was very upset at first but I believe now it was the BEST thing that could have happened. It gave me 6 months home with Maddy every single day. We rarely went anywhere other than church on Sundays. (I will admit that sometimes I thought I would go stir crazy) I know you don't have the luxury of staying home 6 months but what you are doing now.. setting your schedule so rigidly will definitely pay off in the long run.
Keep your chin up... there will be brighter days ahead!! I promise!!
I'm sorry did you say something - I was looking at Shemar :) Just kidding - your nonrushed morning routine sounds perfect!
Mmmmm, I can see why the Social Security Office was a pleasant experience. Must go...need to stick my face in the freezer...
YUMMY!!!
I discovered Shemar Moore back when he was on The Young and The Restless. Can you say "yummy?" That man just makes my toes twitch! I worked for a woman whose son is a dead ringer for Shemar.
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