This is a post shooting in all directions so please hang with me:
1) I am AMAZED at how many people stepped up with their thoughts over the moment of 'Russell'. His torch has been extinguished here but I figured letting him speak for himself was the best approach. I do know that as I get back to catching up with my familiar blogs that I have some new places to check out as well. I am pleased some lurkers came forth and I appreciate your thoughts on that brief little bit of melodrama. I have reason to suspect he/she could be a 'troll' anyway. It appears his claimed institution of higher learning doesn't claim him as faculty on their website. Whatever the case, I won't be wasting more time on any of that. I took that PIPO moniker for a reason so I'm going to try sticking to it...peace in, peace out.
2) I am very happy to report that things are going so well right now...only a few weeks back into the 'real deal' of life. My girl is thriving during the day with her little friends and play time. I am thrilled! It is such a relief to see her doing so well now. Her pediatrician was right when she said she thought it would go better for my girl once we were in the predictable groove rather than just the skittish work schedule I had at first.
3) My lovely lady who could not roll over and did not realize that her arms could bend when I met her has long since been crawling at high speed. Now she is walking..albeit still with a little trepidation. She seems so much more a little girl now and less a little baby. It's going by so quickly.
4) We are in a far more zen place now. I am still attentive to limited outside stimulation and I keep home a quiet, safe haven for her. My girl is back to sleeping 11 hours per night. The wail that would ring out in the night stopped a couple weeks ago as well.
5) There are so many more smiles from the toes and belly laughs now. It is a TREASURE to see and hear those things. I have gotten spontaneous sticky, sloppy kisses and that is the grooviest thing ever. Great strides have been made. It is obvious to me that she has become so much more comfortable and that makes me feel immensely better.
6) My girl is getting a little more discriminating about her food choices. She prefers particular brands of yogurt and cottage cheese. She turns up her nose if it's not her 'brand'. Oh my! She is a good little eater, though, and loves her blueberries and peaches.
7) I am finally settling into some semblance of normalcy with work again. It was not an easy transition back for me either but we both have a pretty good grip on things now. I am really getting pretty snappy with the knife juggling (most days ;o>)
8) I am only going to mention the 'Russell' thing one last time. Thanks for the support but I will say he never made me feel 'guilty' nor did he make me question myself. After all, no one else can make me feel any particular way unless I allow it. In truth, I can actually thank him. I was experiencing times when I was really struggling within myself about if I was doing a good job as a mom. The transitions were VERY hard for us both and I shed my fair amount of tears. I am sure I will, again, in the future. But, I will say the judgmental blathering of another took away any of that doubting myself. His comments led me to take stock in how hard I have worked to become a responsible parent and all that I have to offer my child. He also made me realize that no one else's garbage will ever come between me and my child in any way. It all simply bolstered my confidence that I am parenting my daughter in a way that will serve her well as she grows.
9) Life IS good....I feel prepared for the next round of speed bumps in daily life at work, play or home. It's nice when it's that way rather than feeling like the back of your head just keeps bouncing off bump after bump with no respite.
10) Enjoy your weekend. I certainly plan to enjoy mine with my favorite blueberry muncher.
Friday, May 15, 2009
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so much to say on this post. I agree that Mr. R is done and I'm glad you addressed it and I smiled when I read "after all, no one else can make me feel any particular way unless I allow it" those are words that me and my husband have repeated so many times about different things in our life - child rearing being one of them for sure! We to were real big and still are even with a 9 year old about routine and certain things that are predictable. Obviously as they get older the routine and schedules change but for the most part for us, we do well with predictability. So glad things are going well...
Just delurking to say I'm so happy you both are doing so well! I love your blog, and your little girl is such a cutie pie. Have a great weekend:)
I am so glad that you got it all out and you feel good about it and I am sure He got the message.
Oh and for the sloppy kisses, even when she is a teenager and they are not so sloppy anymore they are still as groovy as ever! And for the tears and struggling with guilt....welcome MOTHERHOOD!! Enjoy the ride because it goes soooooo fast!! Your doing a great job.
Love and blessings, Kristy
I am glad things are going well. It makes life move smoother. And I am glad your daughter has made some friends at day care. She will begin to look for them when she gets there.
Well, can I get an AMEN! :0)
You will continue to be amazed at the change that occurs each and every month. Last night, after making a long trip to MD to visit with family, we were all sleeping in the same bed. Maddy of course requires that we are facing her at all times. She reaches out to touch our face to confirm we are indeed facing her and then... she holds our face in her little hand and says, "I LOVE YOU!" Nothing is better than that!
So glad to read your post. Sounds like things are unfolding well. The speed bumps do come, but growth and peace seem to be easily found on the other side. Get into a (somewhat) predictable routine really helped us, too. It was about the point that you are at when I really felt the turning poing and the speed bumps that followed felt easier to deal with since there was a little bit of distance between them, rather than the intensity of it all during those first few months.
Enjoy the weekend!
So happy for you and where you are at in life, work and parenthood. Sounds like you have perspective and a great outlook, good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm just sitting here smiling through this entire post. I am SO glad that things are going better for you guys. And as far as "Russell" is concerned, I guess we owe him a big thank you since he made you see things you weren't able to see before.
Love your blog! Happy to hear you are doing so well. Your daughter is beautiful!
Yes life IS good!! So glad you are both enjoying the routine and eating yummy blueberries. Lots of hugs!
I am so thankful that you were matched with the baby girl that you were. I really believe you were meant to be together! Every girl/young lady needs a strong, confident role model. You will teach her so much...like picking a career that means something to you and makes you feel good at the end of the day, how to stand up for herself and to recognize ignorance when she sees it! Finding balance is tough in so many situations in life and it isn't easy for any of us! You are doing a great job of "navigating" from where I sit!!! I will keep following along and look forward to learning from you myself and hope to be a good mom just like you are!
Blessing from TN,
Michelle
I'm so glad the transition continues. And I just want to chime in one last time and say that staying at home with your child does not guarantee the absence of attachment issues. Because... umm... Hello, my name is Tonggu Momma and I'm the SAHM of a child who struggled with attachment issues for over three years. Three. Years.
Every time I sat down to try to gather my thoughts to address Russell.. I got pissed and clicked off. But so many others spoke my thoughts I just let it go. Glad you didn't let that asshat get to you.
So happy to hear you're finding your groove again. :)
I'm so glad things are going so well for you! You've handled a huge hurdle with grace and style. :) Enjoy those blueberries...I go broke when they are in season as my girlie eats them constantly!
Sounds like you're in a great place! Enjoy!
Yay! It sounds like things are going so much better. Routine is definitely key. Jim and I learned the hard way before claiming as our mantra, "Respect the Schedule!"
I believe this is the first time I have commented. I have loved watching your growth as a mother and a woman. You have researched and put into action what YOU know is best for you and your girl. I see you had 72 comments about "russell".....I am sure you had as many "lurkers" (like me) who read and spat upon his name. What a douche bag.
So glad to know all is going well. Can't wait to see more pics of your precious one.
I read this with a BIG Smile on my face:) I am thrilled you both are doing so well. Hugs to both of you!
I love the carefree (well, almost, ya know) feel of this last post. It all came together pretty fast (it seemed so for us observers)and things have settled into a nice rythm.
I'm happy for you!
Wanda
www.atlastmilanascominhome.blogspot.com
Happy to read all is going well. Schedule is all...It just gives us all a sense of control, which our kids lost alittle of when they were joined to forever families.
The joy is just going to grow for both of you.
Donna went back to work this week, but Lauren is being taken care of by her Daddy, while he is out of work. A good transition before day care for her. She ill need to go to go to daycare for the socialization with other kids, which is so good for them.
Wishing many more days of happiness for your family. Linda
I love hearing that life is going so well for you gals!
We are big believers in routine here. In our house, there are just some things that we can't change or the consequences are horrible.
PIPO,
Everday in everway it's getting better!
Congrats on finding your way! But I knew you would.
Blueberries and peaches are yummy together! Have you introduced The Wing to smoothies yet? Yogurt, peaches and blueberries are awful tasty that way!
Simply Fabulous!
what a great post! so great to read that both you and your girl are doing well.
hope you had a wonderful weekend.
this whole post, from start to finish (bye Mr. R), made me happy from head to toe. can't wait 'til we get to see some of little C's smiles again on these pages, when the time is right, but SO glad you're seeing them and getting those sloppy kisses too. you are an AMAZING person (always knew that) and one incredible mom Ms.C~!
So glad to hear and you and your sweetie are doing so well!
Janet
SOO glad to hear that things are going more smoothly for you girls! Oh my, that R needs to mind his own business, IMO! RUDE!
Anyway, glad to see things are going so much better and that C is getting into a groove!
Robin
OK NOW THAT IS A WHOLE LOT OF CUTENESS GOING ON...........WHAT A LITTLE DOLL!Very pleased to hear that all is going well.
Hugs from Canada!!
Kerri loves boo-berries (as she calls them) too! Sounds like Pipa knows what she likes, that's a very good thing!
Glad to hear that things are falling into place and that you both are loving your time together. You ain't seen nothing yet, just wait until the terrible twos!
So happy to read that you and your daughter are enjoying life!
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